Just saying, I’m not gay.

When I mean coming out, I mean that I’ve started telling people about my plans of being fitter and healthier. I’ve not really told anyone yet because I’m not sure that I’ll be successful, and I am very afraid of the public humiliation of failure.

Not only that, but the journey is long and arduous, and if I lose my way picking up the motivation again will be strenuous enough without the added pressure of my friends, family and colleagues poking fun at me because the task was too hard.

Unsupportive Friends

Already I’ve had some friends exhibit unsupportive behaviour. My friend Danielle erotically licked a TimTam in front of me, told me how delicious it was tasting and generally tried to persuade me to eat one. I’m not really sure how to react to that kind of behaviour. I said it would be great if instead of trying to put me off my healthy outlook, she could instead be supportive and help me through it. Not sure she heard me. But anyways, I wasn’t impressed.

I presume there’ll be lots of other instances of people doing that to me as more people discover I’m on this journey. I have a lot to lose, and it’ll take time.

Awesome Friends

Two of my other friends who I told today have been really lovely though. Coral and Mel were both impressed, and gave me encouragement, particularly on the exercise front. In fact, they seemed really surprised that I was jogging! Woohoo me!

Telling Others

I’ve seen a great TED video from Derek Sivers that indicates telling people your goals actually decreases the likelihood of us achieving them. Here’s what I took from the video:

• Resist temptation of telling others
• Delay the gratification that social acceptance brings
• Mind mistakes the talking for the doing

You could just watch it yourself too.

So for the moment I’m keeping my goals to myself.